Welcome to Light in the Battle

A quiet space for mothers healing from trauma and parenting in peace

Mindfulness, gentle parenting, trauma and faith

Hello there. Welcome. My name is Faustina and I'm so glad you're here. This blog is intended as a safe space, a place of peace and quiet for mothers navigating spicy situations. I believe the years of chaos that I went through have taught me a thing or two, and I want my suffering to bear fruit.

If you prefer the written form, the blog and the transcripts of all my podcast episodes are for you. You'll also find me on Spotify as well as most podcasting platforms, as the verbal form is where my creative juices flow best.

Finding Light IN the Battle

The short and sweet of it is that for me, things shifted when I realized that this would never be over. The high-conflict coparenting context is not going away, my trauma has changed me forever despite the EMDR treatment, my child's neurodiverse traits will never change, etc.

Holding my breath as I took inventory of the toll this had taken on my life, refusing to adapt to my situation, and hoping it would all go away did not work. If anything, it kept me in victim mode, cut me off from making new friends and seizing new opportunities, it kept me in the darkness and it opened me up to spiritual warfare.

OK so what was I supposed to do? I was in the dark and it was never going to end. Cool.

I was supposed to feel all the feels. I was supposed to grieve. So I did. I grieved the family I thought I was going to have. I grieved the child I thought I was going to have. I changed my mindset. I gathered information, I customized it to my reality, and I committed to finding Light, Joy, Love in as many moments as I could. In the midst of the battle, IN the Battle, not later when it's over. Cause it's not going away.

Easy, right? No. It took me 6 years to get to this place of peace.

I struggled to find a community online that would bring together all the aspects of what I was going through. There were great experts on autism, on single motherhood, on parenting a PDA child, on narcissistic abuse recovery, on staying connected to Jesus through the darkest times in our lives... But nobody was bringing it all together. Now that I have found my balance I'm hoping that I can, for you.

So Glad You're Here!

I am told "Done is better than Perfect". So here we are. My first blog post. I'm going to keep posting as the Spirit moves me, without getting overwhelmed, and I'm wanting to be very much guided by your comments, suggestions and questions.

For now the best content is on Spotify. Please find me there. In the meantime, peace be with you and keep it one day at a time. Your only job as a single mother on the spectrum is to make it until this evening. And you'll do that again tomorrow, and the day after.

The contents of this website and of my Podcast are for general education and entertainment purposes only and do not constitute professional advice.They are based on lived experience. For professional advice and training seek assistance from a qualified provider. Do not make decisions based solely on something that may have resonated with you here or on my podcast. Bring those thoughts to a professional. All views are my own. Images used are stock images.

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