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There are several possible entry points into Season 2, depending on how much time has passed since you left your abuser as well as how much work you've already done on yourself. Remember that Season 2 is not just about narcissistic abuse recovery, it's to get you to a point where you detach emotionally and are better able to focus all of your energy on being the best mom you can be, and on protecting your babies in court in a strategic and effective manner. Family court again

Here, we look at practical ways out of codependency as an autistic woman. Most of it applies to neurotypical people too, but I want to be mindful of the specific wiring of the ASD brain covered in Episode 21 . Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, emotional detachment as a tactical advantage for family court. Light in the Battle is a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse and it is a podcast where we get clearer, calmer, and spiritually and le

After introducing common codependency traits and behaviors, along with the concept of self-verification in Episode 20, we move on to shocking links between the wiring of the austistic brain, and the well-known codependent traits. It is my belief that just like people with narcissistic personality disorder may target people with autism , the reverse may be true as well. Let's dive in. This is the transcript for Episode 21 . Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, em

Here we explain what codependency is, common behaviors and traits of codependent people, as well as self-verification behaviors in women with ASD and men with NPD. This sets the stage for a deep exploration in Episode 21, of why just like narcissistic people target people with autism , women with autism can also find that relationships with dysfunctional people are a good fit for their brain wiring. Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, emotional detachment as a

What does it mean to forgive someone? Do I have to forgive my abuser? Why is everyone hellbent of getting me to forgive my coparent? These are questions that come up a lot in recovery circles. If we were clear about what forgiveness is, these questions wouldn't come up. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. It's something you do for yourself, and the other person never needs to know. They'll smell the shift, but they don't need to get a memo. Welcome back to season two

Here we cover 10+ practical impacts of EMDR on my life. It has been a game changer in how I've evolved as a woman, as a mother, as a coparent, as a worker, as a family member, as a child of God, and as a friend, after relational trauma and CPTSD. EMDR is an effective trauma therapy for survivors of domestic abuse and for survivors of narcissistic abuse who have developed PTSD. It is a terrific tool of nervous system recovery and it can be appropriate for people on the autism

Raising an autistic child while coparenting with a narcissistic coparent is one of the toughest challenges you can face. You want to provide a stable, supportive environment for your child, but the toxic dynamics with your ex can make that feel impossible. Parallel parenting offers a way to protect your autistic child from emotional harm and create one healthy, ASD-friendly home. This post will guide you through trauma-informed strategies that help you narc-proof your kids fo

This episode / blog post is a non-professional, blunt, simple description of EMDR, of traumatic memories vs. bad memories, of what you can expect when undergoing EMDR treatment. Most survivors of narcissistic abuse leave abusive relationships with PTSD / CPTSD, and that has to be handled in order to be able to detach emotionally from the intensity of the dysfunction if you're coparenting with a narcissist. EMDR is one of the therapies that exist to treat PTSD and CPTSD. There

This post explains my vision for the podcast. I intend to "cross-educate". For example, bringing trauma-informed strategies to single motherhood. Or, looking at narcissistic personality disorder through a spiritual lens. Or, showing how the autistic brain can perform in a superior manner in family court. Or, bringing the tools that the Church gives us access to, into your PTSD recovery. Or, linking regulation in mothers with trauma, to how they can handle PDA kids. Etc. Welco

Navigating family court can feel overwhelming, especially when trauma from past abuse or difficult relationships makes your reactions different from what they need to be . For narcissistic abuse survivors, and trauma survivors, the emotional rollercoaster of custody battles or legal disputes often triggers PTSD symptoms, making it harder to present your case clearly and confidently. Yet, there is a powerful tool you can develop to protect yourself and improve your chances: em

In this episode we explore how to reduce the levels of the stress hormones in the brain to become free from the trauma bond. Being autistic means you can have very methodical trauma bond recovery strategies. If you're also Catholic, that means you have an array of tools at your disposal to heal the trauma bond. Let's explore 6 different ways you can break the addiction to chaos, break the trauma bond and journey towards Emotional Detachment as a Tactical Advantage for Family

For this episode, we're going to be a little nerdy. We're going to talk about the neurochemicals and the stress hormones in the brain that are the reason for our addiction to intensity, our addiction to chaos. It explains the trauma bond in survivors of narcissistic abuse, on a chemical level. It's going to get a little scientific. Buckle up! This is the transcript for Episode 16-A . We're talking about something every survivor of narcissistic abuse deals with, really, espec

Solo parenting can be a beautiful journey, but it can also be incredibly challenging. When crises arise, single mothers can feel like they're battling something bigger than what they can see and touch. Whether it’s a family conflict, a health scare, or a financial struggle, mothers often find themselves in spiritual warfare. The devil loves to target mothers, and families. So in these moments, it is essential to leverage the strategies the Catholic Church gives us, to ward of

When you’re navigating a custody battle or any family court situation with a high conflict ex, the challenges can feel overwhelming. Sometimes, the conflict goes beyond disagreements and turns into a form of legal abuse . This happens when your ex uses the legal system not to seek justice but to control, harass, or exhaust you emotionally and financially. If you suspect an ex displaying narcissistic patterns of behaviour is engaging in this kind of manipulation, recognizing t

Let's talk about six specific tips to get used to peace after a long time of living in chaos. Last week was   an example of transitioning out of chaos and into peace, with the story of how winning in family court after seeing patterns of intimidation and what I interpreted as legal abuse for many years, completely rocked my world. These suggestions will also apply to survivors of narcissistic abuse coming out of an abusive relationship, who are now faced with what feels like

There's a pattern I see in almost every autistic woman who escaped a relationship they describe as abusive, that involved narcissistic patterns. We say we want peace, we beg for it, we talk about it. And when the abuse stops, because we moved away or because we won in family court, we reject that peace. We don't want it, we push it away. It's the strangest thing. It's hard to explain if you don't dive into the inner workings of the addition to chaos, also known as the trauma

Raising a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to managing meltdowns. These intense emotional episodes can be overwhelming for both mother and child. For single moms, staying calm during these moments is crucial—not only to help soothe their child but also to maintain their own well-being. This post explores practical, effective techniques that ASD moms can use to stay calm and support their child through meltdown mo

One of the hardest things for single moms who have lived through narcissistic abuse is how to heal from gaslighting, to then help our children trust their own inner signals. Because kids don't learn emotional intuition from lectures, they learn it from us. From watching how we read situations, how we respond, how we recover when things go sideways. And if you grew up in chaos or manipulation or if you married into it, your inner signals were probably rewired, dismissed, or pu

Staying present with your child when you're overwhelmed sounds simple but it is actually extremely hard when you're a trauma survivor or a neurodivergent parent . By overwhelmed I don't necessarily mean having a meltdown - crying on the floor, screaming. It's the more subtle kind. It's the day-to-day reality - you've got your child stimming over there loudly or pacing, you're over here trying to finish something and your whole body feels like it's vibrating. You're completely

Breaking the cycle and parenting differently after trauma is one of the hardest, most courageous parts of parenting after trauma. It means parenting in a way you've never seen modeled when you were a child. A lot of us are trying to break generational patterns we didn't choose. And we're doing it without a map, while still healing, still learning, and still trying to raise a child who needs us, sometimes intensely. If that's you, you're doing work your parents never did. This