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You might have experienced a disconnect growing up as a neurodivergent child, especially if you are autistic and your parent is neurotypical. This chronic misattunement—the ongoing mismatch between your emotional needs and your parent’s responses—can shape your entire emotional landscape. When your unique way of experiencing the world is misunderstood or dismissed, it can feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells, trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t suit you. This

When you face a custody battle in family court, your ego can become your biggest enemy. The less you react emotionally, the more cooperative you appear. This cooperation, paired with friendly communication, a sole focus on the children, and a willingness to share information about your children, helps the judge see you as the safe parent. On the other hand, the narcissistic, problematic coparent often acts out of pure ego, which can work against them in court. Understanding h

Community and fellowship are crucial in our recovery from PTSD or CPTSD, especially for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Healing from abusive dynamics is extremely difficult to do in isolation. Survivors often leave these relationships with confusion, self-doubt, and lingering trauma responses that make it hard to trust themselves again. Community support can provide something that individual trauma recovery work alone cannot: shared understanding, validation, and co-regulati

There are several possible entry points into Season 2, depending on how much time has passed since you left your abuser as well as how much work you've already done on yourself. Remember that Season 2 is not just about narcissistic abuse recovery, it's to get you to a point where you detach emotionally and are better able to focus all of your energy on being the best mom you can be, and on protecting your babies in court in a strategic and effective manner. Family court again

Here, we look at practical ways out of codependency as an autistic woman. Most of it applies to neurotypical people too, but I want to be mindful of the specific wiring of the ASD brain covered in Episode 21 . Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, emotional detachment as a tactical advantage for family court. Light in the Battle is a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse and it is a podcast where we get clearer, calmer, and spiritually and le

After introducing common codependency traits and behaviors, along with the concept of self-verification in Episode 20, we move on to shocking links between the wiring of the austistic brain, and the well-known codependent traits. It is my belief that just like people with narcissistic personality disorder may target people with autism, the reverse may be true as well. Let's dive in. This is the transcript for Episode 21. Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, emot

Here we explain what codependency is, common behaviors and traits of codependent people, as well as self-verification behaviors in women with ASD and men with NPD. This sets the stage for a deep exploration in Episode 21, of why just like narcissistic people target people with autism, women with autism can also find that relationships with dysfunctional people are a good fit for their brain wiring. This is the transcript for Episode 20. Welcome back to season two of Light in

What does it mean to forgive someone? Do I have to forgive my abuser? Why is everyone hellbent of getting me to forgive my coparent? These are questions that come up a lot in recovery circles. If we were clear about what forgiveness is, these questions wouldn't come up. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. It's something you do for yourself, and the other person never needs to know. They'll smell the shift, but they don't need to get a memo. Welcome back to season two

Here we cover 10+ practical impacts of EMDR on my life. It has been a game changer in how I've evolved as a woman, as a mother, as a coparent, as a worker, as a family member, as a child of God, and as a friend, after relational trauma and CPTSD. EMDR is an effective trauma therapy for survivors of domestic abuse and for survivors of narcissistic abuse who have developed PTSD. It is a terrific tool of nervous system recovery and it can be appropriate for people on the autism