Raising a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to managing meltdowns. These intense emotional episodes can be overwhelming for both mother and child. For single moms, staying calm during these moments is crucial—not only to help soothe their child but also to maintain their own well-being. This post explores practical, effective techniques that ASD moms can use to stay calm and support their child through meltdown mo

One of the hardest things for single moms who have lived through narcissistic abuse is how to heal from gaslighting, to then help our children trust their own inner signals. Because kids don't learn emotional intuition from lectures, they learn it from us. From watching how we read situations, how we respond, how we recover when things go sideways. And if you grew up in chaos or manipulation or if you married into it, your inner signals were probably rewired, dismissed, or pu

How do you help your child regulate when you're not regulated yourself? If you're raising a neurodivergent child or healing from trauma, this is your daily reality. Your child has big emotions, sensory needs, meltdowns, refusals. And meanwhile, you might be dissociating, anxious, or overstimulated yourself. You love your child fiercely, but sometimes your nervous system just says, "I can't do this right now. I caaaaan't." Let's talk about what to do in those moments. T his is

Today's question is, what do we do when their stimming overstimulates us? In most households, we hear parents talking about their kids wanting to be in their arms all the time or their kids being up against their legs all the time, wanting contact and needing that hug all the time. In parenting circles, neurotypical circles, a phrase has been coined for this. It's called being touched out . In those circles, they will remind you that love and overwhelm can coexist. That's a b

When I left my marital home, I was a few weeks pregnant. At first, it didn't feel like escaping abuse. I just knew I couldn't keep living this way. The tension I felt, the fear, the constant confusion, something in me finally said, "enough". The feeling of being harrassed didn't stop after I left. In some ways, it got worse. This is the transcript for Episode 4 . But being in a new home and then eventually in another social circle gave me space to breathe and to start seeing

In this post I discuss general thoughts on coparenting an ASD child. Most of them do not apply in the context of parallel parenting, when the coparenting relationship is highly litigious and feels like there's a power imbalance. I wanted to write this piece nonetheless for anyone who's not living that reality, and is just a single mom to an autistic child. The assumption here is that the coparenting relationship is highly functional. My Podcast however is where I dive into h