There are several possible entry points into Season 2, depending on how much time has passed since you left your abuser as well as how much work you've already done on yourself. Remember that Season 2 is not just about narcissistic abuse recovery, it's to get you to a point where you detach emotionally and are better able to focus all of your energy on being the best mom you can be, and on protecting your babies in court in a strategic and effective manner. Family court again

Here we explain what codependency is, common behaviors and traits of codependent people, as well as self-verification behaviors in women with ASD and men with NPD. This sets the stage for a deep exploration in Episode 21, of why just like narcissistic people target people with autism , women with autism can also find that relationships with dysfunctional people are a good fit for their brain wiring. Welcome back to season two of Light in the Battle, emotional detachment as a

What does it mean to forgive someone? Do I have to forgive my abuser? Why is everyone hellbent of getting me to forgive my coparent? These are questions that come up a lot in recovery circles. If we were clear about what forgiveness is, these questions wouldn't come up. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. It's something you do for yourself, and the other person never needs to know. They'll smell the shift, but they don't need to get a memo. Welcome back to season two

Here we cover 10+ practical impacts of EMDR on my life. It has been a game changer in how I've evolved as a woman, as a mother, as a coparent, as a worker, as a family member, as a child of God, and as a friend, after relational trauma and CPTSD. EMDR is an effective trauma therapy for survivors of domestic abuse and for survivors of narcissistic abuse who have developed PTSD. It is a terrific tool of nervous system recovery and it can be appropriate for people on the autism

This episode / blog post is a non-professional, blunt, simple description of EMDR, of traumatic memories vs. bad memories, of what you can expect when undergoing EMDR treatment. Most survivors of narcissistic abuse leave abusive relationships with PTSD / CPTSD, and that has to be handled in order to be able to detach emotionally from the intensity of the dysfunction if you're coparenting with a narcissist. EMDR is one of the therapies that exist to treat PTSD and CPTSD. There

This post explains my vision for the podcast. I intend to "cross-educate". For example, bringing trauma-informed strategies to single motherhood. Or, looking at narcissistic personality disorder through a spiritual lens. Or, showing how the autistic brain can perform in a superior manner in family court. Or, bringing the tools that the Church gives us access to, into your PTSD recovery. Or, linking regulation in mothers with trauma, to how they can handle PDA kids. Etc. Welco

Navigating family court can feel overwhelming, especially when trauma from past abuse or difficult relationships makes your reactions different from what they need to be . For narcissistic abuse survivors, and trauma survivors, the emotional rollercoaster of custody battles or legal disputes often triggers PTSD symptoms, making it harder to present your case clearly and confidently. Yet, there is a powerful tool you can develop to protect yourself and improve your chances: em

In this episode we explore how to reduce the levels of the stress hormones in the brain to become free from the trauma bond. Being autistic means you can have very methodical trauma bond recovery strategies. If you're also Catholic, that means you have an array of tools at your disposal to heal the trauma bond. Let's explore 6 different ways you can break the addiction to chaos, break the trauma bond and journey towards Emotional Detachment as a Tactical Advantage for Family

Let's talk about six specific tips to get used to peace after a long time of living in chaos. Last week was   an example of transitioning out of chaos and into peace, with the story of how winning in family court after seeing patterns of intimidation and what I interpreted as legal abuse for many years, completely rocked my world. These suggestions will also apply to survivors of narcissistic abuse coming out of an abusive relationship, who are now faced with what feels like

There's a pattern I see in almost every autistic woman who escaped a relationship they describe as abusive, that involved narcissistic patterns. We say we want peace, we beg for it, we talk about it. And when the abuse stops, because we moved away or because we won in family court, we reject that peace. We don't want it, we push it away. It's the strangest thing. It's hard to explain if you don't dive into the inner workings of the addition to chaos, also known as the trauma

One of the hardest things for single moms who have lived through narcissistic abuse is how to heal from gaslighting, to then help our children trust their own inner signals. Because kids don't learn emotional intuition from lectures, they learn it from us. From watching how we read situations, how we respond, how we recover when things go sideways. And if you grew up in chaos or manipulation or if you married into it, your inner signals were probably rewired, dismissed, or pu

When you're parenting after trauma, especially trauma that involved the other parent, there are moments where your mind knows that you're safe now, that you made it out, that the crisis has passed... But your body and your nervous system don't believe you yet. This is the transcript for Episode 10 . Your heart is racing, your shoulders are up by your ears, you're pracing for impact, your stomach's tight, your thoughts get fast or blank or sharp; that's what happens when your

There is something that sits in the back of the mind for many mothers who co-parent with someone unpredictable or high-conflict: That court date you can't stop thinking about, or the custody review, or the mediation, the evaluation, or the email that might come at any moment. This kind of stress is not theoretical, it's not just anxiety. It's your nervous system responding to something with real weight, and you are not overreacting. Your body is responding to something that r

There is an important difference between rest and escape. Escaping is something the nervous system does when it doesn't feel safe. It's a survival response. So there's no shame here. We are simply learning to notice what is happening so we can take care of ourselves better. This is the transcript for Episode 8 . What rest looks like: Rest is something that reduces stress in your body. Rest feels like your breathing slows down. Your shoulders soften, your thoughts quiet a lit

Peace can sometimes feel wrong. Like your body doesn't know what to do with it. Like there's an addiction to chaos, which is something I'm going to be covering in Episode 15A through 16B. This is something that used to confuse me and still sometimes surprises me. This is the transcript for Episode 6 . If you've lived through chaos, emotional abuse, instability, constant conflict, your nervous system learns that tension equals normal. You don't even notice it happening, your

Life doesn't stop being hard just because you understand what's happening. Healing doesn't mean the chaos disappears. It means you get better at finding stillness while it's happening. There are still court papers, still emails that spike your heart rate, still moments when your child has a meltdown and you can feel your nervous system start to overload. This is the transcript for Episode 5 . These reactions in your body, are really your body doing exactly what it was trained

When I left my marital home, I was a few weeks pregnant. At first, it didn't feel like escaping abuse. I just knew I couldn't keep living this way. The tension I felt, the fear, the constant confusion, something in me finally said, "enough". The feeling of being harrassed didn't stop after I left. In some ways, it got worse. This is the transcript for Episode 4 . But being in a new home and then eventually in another social circle gave me space to breathe and to start seeing

There's a kind of strength that doesn't look like fighting. It looks like letting go. Not giving up, but detaching. If you've ever had to co-parent with someone unpredictable or love a child who needs extra patience, you know how draining it can be to stay emotionally steady. This is the Transcript for Episode 3 . Every reaction, every word, every tone feels like it carries weight. And sometimes you just need to step back to keep your peace. But detachment can be misunderstoo

Narcissistic abuse can leave deep emotional scars. Many survivors feel lost, confused, and unsure of how to move forward. If you are reading this, you may be seeking guidance on your healing journey. You are not alone. This guide aims to provide practical steps and insights to help you reclaim your life and rebuild your sense of self. Understanding Narcissistic Abuse Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological manipulation. It often involves a partner or fami